Situation : Two income family with a 4 year old boy, wondering whether to have a second kid.
Dilemma : If we do decide to have a second child, age difference between the two kids may be around 5+ years. Even after reading numerous posts (including some from this very forum), I am not able to make up my mind on whether the 5+ year difference is significant. Also, I am an *extremely* career oriented person, who has been doing a not-so-bad job juggling work and home. I am not sure how the equation will change with a second child.
The first one goes to a private school now. If we have the second child, private school will no longer be an option. I also worry about what will happen if I am not able to cope, and quit my job. At that point, I am worried how a single income family in BAY area, will cope with two kids, and a mortgage! My husband and I are both in good positions, but we are only individual contributors with no desire to get into management, although both of us have the necessary skill-set for the same, and have had related opportunities come up every now and then, which we kept turning down. I must add here, that my husband has always been a great support for me. He is a very hands-on dad, and we have been able to pull it off pretty well so far. Not sure how much of this will change with a second kid. As far as R2Iing, we don't have any short term plans.
I am looking for inputs from people who were in similar situations in the past. I know nobody can answer the question for me, but I still think, there is an opportunity for me to learn from others' experience. TIA!
Dilemma : If we do decide to have a second child, age difference between the two kids may be around 5+ years. Even after reading numerous posts (including some from this very forum), I am not able to make up my mind on whether the 5+ year difference is significant. Also, I am an *extremely* career oriented person, who has been doing a not-so-bad job juggling work and home. I am not sure how the equation will change with a second child.
The first one goes to a private school now. If we have the second child, private school will no longer be an option. I also worry about what will happen if I am not able to cope, and quit my job. At that point, I am worried how a single income family in BAY area, will cope with two kids, and a mortgage! My husband and I are both in good positions, but we are only individual contributors with no desire to get into management, although both of us have the necessary skill-set for the same, and have had related opportunities come up every now and then, which we kept turning down. I must add here, that my husband has always been a great support for me. He is a very hands-on dad, and we have been able to pull it off pretty well so far. Not sure how much of this will change with a second kid. As far as R2Iing, we don't have any short term plans.
I am looking for inputs from people who were in similar situations in the past. I know nobody can answer the question for me, but I still think, there is an opportunity for me to learn from others' experience. TIA!
